The Bark Bites Back at 2012-05-30 18:39:35:
Tom is a romanticist, thru and thru. Let's check out the definition of romantic from Merriam Webster:
1. consisting or resembling a romance.
2. having no basis in fact: imaginary
3. impractical in conception or plan: visionary
4. a) marked by the imaginative or emotional appeal of what is heroic, adventurous, mysterious, or idealized.
There's more, but that is word or word what's found in the dictionary with my emphasis on certain words.
With regards to the relationship between Tom and Summer, Tom sees something idealized in her. Rather than the stereotypical fireworks symbolizing sex, Tom envisions a day in the life of a flash mob.
On the flip side, when things are on the low, we get another expressive bit with the split screen of reality vs. expectations, the latter being a romanticized sense of self that creates the gap sending him into the abyss.
All of these go back to the concept of Tom being blinded by love, his romantic sensibilities causing him to form an idealized sense of a relationship that doesn't exist other than within his own perspective and head.
Conversely, Summer is almost always kept hidden from an objective viewpoint because it's important for the audience to experience her through Tom's eyes. As such, she feels somewhat distancing on purpose as we're not really allowed to get to know her outside of "the realm of Tom".
Case in point, when she first shows up in the office, what we learn from her is subjective through a third character who paints a negative portrait. Tom adapts this view from his co-worker, only to formulate his own opinion upon meeting her in the elevator - an opinion colored by his own perceptions and taste in music (it's conceivable to say the story would have been 10 minutes long had she said "are you listening to The Smiths? They should be called The Sucks".
While they might have enjoyed a "Breakfast at Tiffany's" moment, it proves to be superficial because at her core, Summer is diametrically opposite of Tom's beliefs: he's the romanticist, she's the skeptic who doesn't believe in love so it's a bit of a twist that she's eventually the one who ends up getting married... and fairly damn quick, too I might add (what's up with THAT?).